Criticisms come in two types: Constructive and destructive criticism.
It’s perfectly possible to handle both constructive and destructive criticism without ending up hating your boss. Here is how to do it:
A successful business man or woman has at least one thing in common: they have learned from others’ criticism and used it to their advantage. Don’t forget that the vast majority of successful people have made many mistakes on the way to the top.
Ignore destructive criticism
Destructive criticism damages your self-esteem and causes you to be less effective. A good example of destructive criticism is if your boss says, “How could you do that stupid mistake, what were you thinking? I don’t know why I hired you.” Another example is if your boss uses his body language to show his depreciation of your work by shaking his head and walk away from you without saying a word to you.
It puts you back and makes you feel uncomfortable at work. The reason is that the criticism is negative and does not give you the solution on how to do things better next time resulting in you not working effectively next time.
How do you deal with destructive criticism:
Ignore the destructive criticism and try to turn it into something positive.
This is an example of constructive criticism from your boss: “Thanks for the report, but I had hoped that you had done a little differently, for example by additional summaries and some simple graphs. The content is solid, but if you could do the changes I mentioned, I’d appreciate it.”
In this example you get to know why your boss is not completely satisfied, how to improve your work next time and you also hear what was good about it.
How do you handle constructive criticism:
Realize that the feedback is positive. Be sure you understand the feedback and ask questions to ensure that you have understood what is required of you.
Turning negative feedback into positive feedback:
First, be sure you understand the criticism and then ask your boss what he didn’t like about the work and why he didn’t like it. Then ask how you can improve your work next time. If you don’t get an answer, ignore the criticism and assume that you’ve done a good job. Some bosses are negative in nature and there is nothing you or anyone else can do about it.
Taking criticism positively
If your boss, manager or superior tells you that things should be done differently, make your changes, and then ask again if things are okay. Always be sure you have done your best and ask question so there are no misunderstanding regarding the tasks you re assigned to.
Remember that there are no such thing as dumb questions.